Savage Love

Is there such a thing as a pornography recycling center? I just got a new girlfriend and she wants me to get rid of my collection of porno videos (about thirty). I also have some hardcore het print magazines I want to get rid of (they remind me of a time when I had neither girlfriend nor VCR). You can't just toss these things in the garbage, for fear that someone might find them, and none of my friends wants my old porn. So is there such a thing as a pornography recycling center? How do I get rid of this stuff? I don't want to be one of those perverts who advertise their "3,000-title porn collection" in the newspaper.

Porn No More

Hey, PNM:
If you live in a neighborhood with its fair share of inquisitive, restless, horny adolescents--and really, who doesn't?--consider your garbage can a pornography recycling center. Put your porn out early in the week, leave one mag visible on top of the pile, and in under 24 hours, your entire collection will be "recycled." You can feel good about getting rid of your old porn this way: If it weren't for adults "carelessly" disposing of used porn, underprivileged kids who don't have access to the Internet would be deprived of jerk-off material. If you're embarrassed to leave porn in your garbage can, toss it in a neighbor's or dump it in an alley near a high school.

However, you can get some cash for your trash: Many adult bookstores buy used porn.

Taboo Video is the only place in Seattle that currently buys used porn, and according to James, Taboo's manager, most of the guys who bring in their old porn are in your shoes, PNM. "They just got girlfriends who don't like them having porn around," James told me, "so they bring it in. We pay 10 percent of cover price for a magazine, and we do trade for old movies."

James thinks a lot of guys are too quick to break up their porn collections. He's seen guys who sold him their porn collections to pacify a new girlfriend back at Taboo a few months later, rebuilding their collection after breaking up with their girlfriends. "Then the guy doesn't have porn or a girlfriend," observed James. "Guys should think before they get rid of their porn: 'Is she worth it? Will this last?' If you're not getting married, I'd say keep your porn."

I am a 36-year-old gay man. I recently dumped my lover of nearly a year because I caught him in a huge lie. It wasn't the lie that forced me to dump him but his refusal to disclose his reasons for lying. I still love him, but this was not his first lie. Should I take him back or should I hold my ground?

The lie: He failed to call me during the Christmas/New Year's holidays. He said he forgot his cell phone at his apartment in Switzerland. However, two days before Christmas, I called him on his cell phone, and we chatted while he drove to his house in Germany. He also "forgot" to tell me he has a regular phone in his house in Germany.

My friends are glad I dumped my lover because of the way he's mistreated me: not calling, not coming to visit, making me fly 12,000 miles to see him and not chatting online as frequently as we had when we first got together. I'm torn. My heart says take him back; my head says leave the lying bastard.

My Lover Is a Liar

Hey, LL:
Your lover is a liar, and your lover's lover--that's you, chickpea--is apparently an idiot. For a 36-year-old fag, you're distressingly clue-proof. When a guy avoids your phone calls, refuses to give you his number, doesn't come to see you and won't take time to chat (online or real-time), he's trying to tell you something: HE DOESN'T REALLY WANT TO BE YOUR BOYFRIEND. He doesn't like you that much, he doesn't care for you, and he doesn't have the courtesy or cojones to dump you himself. So, by all means, dump your un-cut Kraut boyfriend, but don't let's kid ourselves here: Dumping him is a formality. For all practical purposes, he's already dumped you.

Recently, a couple with a child moved in next-door to my roommate and me (we're both women). Our dining room has a big bay window that faces the side of their house. After about a week, we realized that there wasn't a curtain on their bathroom window. We began a midnight ritual of watching the man shower. He knows we watch and seems to enjoy it. Recently, he began to masturbate in front of the window, obviously wanting us to watch him. We're not sure if we like this or not, but we still watch occasionally.

Now he waits until we get home to shower; and when we're outside, he's conveniently out there, too, trying to make small talk.

Should we be concerned about this guy? Could he be a raving lunatic? Is this a common fantasy for men--being observed like this--or is there something wrong with him?

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