Friend or Foe

In an era of hooking up, when does a date become rape?

Sarah, however, says she has had no second thoughts. "If someone is saying no, it means no," she says. "I know what 'consent' and 'no consent' mean. I know the difference." Still, she recognizes that alcohol played a role in the incident, and she says she has stopped drinking altogether. "If I can't drink responsibly, I won't drink at all," she says. She has also gotten back together with her old boyfriend.

While Mike and Beth were close in the past, over the last two months they've been forced into a greater, far more uncomfortable intimacy as Mike reveals the graphic and personal details of that night in early October. In an odd way, Mike says, the revelations have brought them closer. "Because I now have nothing to hide," he explains. "On the other hand, I don't have a personal life anymore. It's all public, all being displayed."

Mike has changed his behavior in subtle ways. He, too, has cut back on drinking, and he is proceeding -- cautiously -- with dating. Recently he met a girl he liked. When she invited him back to her room, however, he declined. "I just said, 'No, no, no,'" he recalls. "You gotta watch out, make sure there's plenty of people around.

"I was a little promiscuous, and I drank," he says. "I never drank in high school, or had sex, so when I got here, I took advantage of it. But no more than the average person here. I guess I fell into a kind of averageness."

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