John Stark, non-monogamist author of Small Things and the blog We Sleep Together (http://wesleeptogether.blogspot.com) says he became non-monogamous the same way that everyone did. A lesbian friend asked me to knock her up at some point in the future, I asked my girlfriend if she thought that was okay, and we had a three-hour conversation about sex with other people, cheating and all the gray area in between.
Clearly, Starks not dourly serious about his sexuality, and his playful manner and extensive knowledge about non-monogamous lifestyles make him the perfect host for tonights Small Things Non-Monogamy Workshop and Reading at the Smitten Kitten.
The workshops are really geared for any person interested in non-monogamy on any level, Stark explains. Whats funny to me is that a lot of the steps toward setting up a healthy and successful open relationship are the same to setting up a healthy and successful monogamous relationship. Put another way? I intend to geek out on sex and relationships, and probably a little bit about the upcoming A-Team remake.
Tonights workshop runs from 7 to 9 p.m. at the Kitten, 70 Broadway, and will cover the different ways non-monogamy can work. Saturday, Ill have my expert hat on, Stark notes, which is a hat that looks silly on me and doesnt fit me well. You can also stop by tomorrow from 10 a.m. to noon for the Small Things Polyamory Brunch, where Stark will lose the hat: On Sunday, Im hoping people show up just looking to talk with like-minded people and have some food.