Interesting that you picked two wildly successful women, possibly two of the most successful women anywhere as your examples. Sure, it's easy to have two incomes, share responsibilities and live a fantastic life when you have incomes like these women have. Unfortunately, that's not true for many people. The costs of having a job as well as putting kids in daycare, etc... makes a 'two income lifestyle' cost prohibitive to many people in the real world. Not every woman who stays home with her kids is abused, I have no statistics on it, but I'm guessing most don't.