Will Mexicanos ever see Chicanos as equals?

Dear Mexican: I was born in Los Estados Unidos, my father is from Tamaulipas, and my mother is a third-generation Chicana. I'm married to a Mexicano, and we recently vacationed in his home town of Apatzingan, Michoacán. It was my first time meeting my in-laws and everyone from his colonia. It seems I got the evil staredown and was being asked all kinds of questions to prove my Mexicanana-ness from all his primas, tias and friends. They couldn't wait for me to fuck up a word in Spanish, and asked if I cooked, liked banda music and knew how to make tortillas. I answered that I worked full-time, make an okay mole de pollo, like all kinds of music except for banda, and buy my tortillas from the supermarket.

However, I got the impression it wasn't enough; I felt I am not a real Mexicana to them. After expressing this to my husband, all he could say was that I am not a Mexican, I am a Chicana, and that's different. We are different people, but how different can we really be? Will Mexicanos ever see Chicanos as equals? Will I never be seen as an equal by my Mexican in-laws, or will they eventually see that the only difference between us is that my mom gave birth to me north of the frontera? It seems there is a thick line drawn between those of us born north and south of the Mexican-American border. I can handle discrimination from gabachos or any other race (shit, I'm used to it by now), but this — this is really unjust. Why do men and women from Mexico seems to consider themselves superior to Chicanos?

Puzzled Chicana

Dear Pocha: Next time some wab gives you grief about not being Mexican enough, just tell them you have the best of both worlds: You're Mexican and American — while they're just...Mexicans.

Dear Mexican: I hear a lot of accordion-heavy music on Spanish-language radio. Do Mexican women go crazy for accordionists like white girls do for guitarists? White women are reverse-attracted to guys who can play the accordion really well — to them, it's the same as guys who can play Dungeons & Dragons really well, at least in the paleface tribe I pow-wow with. Can my musical skills translate into muchos mujeres?

A 40 and an Accordion

Dear Gabacho: Time was when the accordion player was the papi chulo of the Mexican regional music world, but tuba players have usurped the position in the past couple of years for banda music and that horrible-sounding banda-conjunto norteño pendejada. Unfortunately, the instrument's elevated status has led to a rash of tuba thefts from high schools and junior highs by aspiring tuba players who usually target Mexican-heavy schools and therefore screw over youngsters whose band departments can't afford tubas in these Great Recession times. Moral of the story? As with the question before, sometimes, the worst enemies of Mexicans are...Mexicans. La raza unida and all that jamas shit, cabrones.

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Oh and one last thing my parents are still together after 25 years. And my mom still gets shit from my dads side of the family. So you may just have to get used to it. Alot of people from mexico have a tremendous amount of pride.


But the main reason they despise you is because your mother is chicana. If both of your parents were mexicanos they wouldnt trip.


Theyre just jealous youre chicana. My moms a 6th generation chicana from san antonio and my father is from guanajuato. So trust me ive dealt with it too. To be a chicano is soooo different from being mexicano. Food, music, customs, certain spanish words, are all diff for chicanos. And they know that and you should too. Thats just how people act when youre different. If you cave into their judgement theyll walk all over you. Youre chicana be proud of that the same way they are proud of being national mexicanos! They will never see you as the same. Just like any other american. Same thing happens when a black person goes to africa or a german american descendant goes to germany. Theyre not seen as the same. Its a culture thing not a race thing. There is a difference.