In the 21 months since John Parr, Sandy Widener and their daughter, Chase Parr, were killed in a horrific car accident, I've trained myself not to grab the phone to call Sandy, a wonderful writer and college pal who was one of the founders of Westword, to hoot over some journalistic dust-up. And I've finally removed the Rolodex card devoted to Parr, the political strategist who was working for then-Governor Dick Lamm when Sandy met him on an interview, and who remained a go-to guy wheneve