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Sandy Ebersohl's twenty-year trail of deceit and fabrication

Sandy Ebersohl has a way with men.

By all accounts, the 48-year-old Colorado Springs woman has been quick to attract them, both in person and on Internet dating sites. But over the past twenty years, Ebersohl has also turned many of their lives into hell on earth.

Westword recently obtained more than two decades' worth of police reports, court documents and copies of restraining orders that show that Ebersohl has a history of fabricating information. The documents reveal a pattern: Ebersohl starts dating a man, and when the man tries to break up with her, she starts harassing him. Or, worse, she calls the police to report that he is harassing her, or that he hit her, broke into her house or stole her car. Her claims are almost always unfounded, the documents show.

According to records from the Colorado Bureau of Investigation, she has been arrested at least ten times in Denver, Aurora and Colorado Springs for violating restraining orders, harassment, stalking, and damaging property. In 1993 she pleaded guilty to causing a disturbance by phone. In 1994 she pleaded guilty to harassment. In 1997 she pleaded guilty to harassing communication. In 2000 she pleaded guilty to disorderly conduct. And in 2005 she pleaded guilty to false reporting. She has been involved in more than a dozen restraining-order cases, either as the person seeking protection or the person from whom protection is being sought.

One of the men she was involved with, Louis Hampers, had problems of his own. In 2010, Westword ran a cover story about the former head of emergency medicine at Children's Hospital in Aurora. And while the criminal charges he faced, for prescription-drug fraud, and the loss of his career were his own doing, getting mixed up with Ebersohl probably didn't help.

Ebersohl, who had dated Hampers, was a source for that story, but it now appears that she may have fabricated much of the information she gave to Westword, the police and other people involved in that situation. (For that reason, the original article has been removed from Westword's online archives -- although stories about Hampers that relied entirely on other, undisputed sources remain online.)

Neither Ebersohl nor Hampers spoke to us for this story. But in an attempt to shed some light on whether Ebersohl was telling the truth, we examined her history and spoke to some of the men she dated. They warned us that with Ebersohl, the truth is hard to come by.

"I wouldn't believe anything she says," says one man.

Another of her exes agrees. "She's a devious, diabolical woman," he says.

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The records obtained by Westword show that between 1992 and 2013, Ebersohl had police involvement with at least fourteen different men. Many are described in police reports as her ex-boyfriends or, later, as lovers she met through online dating sites. And most of the reports detail harassment they suffered after breaking up with her.

The reports start in 1993, when Ebersohl (then known as Sandra Sward; Ebersohl is a married name, though records indicate that she is now divorced) met a married Denver police officer while he was working off-duty providing security at a Denver Nuggets game. According to police reports, the officer said that he and Ebersohl had a "one-night sexual encounter." (We are not naming the officer or any of the other men Ebersohl has been involved with.)

After their encounter, the officer claimed that Ebersohl stalked him by following him to bars and calling him hundreds of times. She even began to call his wife, and once followed him and his family to Elitch Gardens. In December 1993, the officer filed a restraining order against Ebersohl, but that didn't stop her from contacting him. Once, in February 1994, the officer called the Aurora police to report that Ebersohl had followed him to an alley behind a 7-Eleven, where he'd parked to change his clothes after work, and had gotten inside his car.

Although the officer later told the Aurora police that he "had [her] arrested twice" for violating the restraining order, he said the charges were dropped by the district attorney.

Denver court records show that Ebersohl did plead guilty to harassment in 1994, however. There are no details about the charge (the court says the files have since been destroyed), but the existing record says she's not to have any contact with the Denver officer.

Records also show that she pleaded guilty in 1993 to "disturbance by use of phone" — though there are no details about that charge, either.

The first instance in which Ebersohl may have made a false accusation — against a different man — happened in June 1994, when she reported to Aurora police that a burglar had taken an eighteen-speed bike, a black camcorder, a shirt and $100 in cash from her apartment. When the police asked who might have robbed her, she pointed the finger at an ex-boyfriend. Her reasoning? She said she'd found a butter knife near the patio door, where it appeared the burglar had broken in, and that her ex-boyfriend had once used a butter knife to pry open that same door when she'd accidentally locked her keys in the apartment.

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Melanie Asmar is a staff writer for Westword. She joined the paper in 2009 and has won awards for her stories about education, immigration and epic legal battles. Got a tip? She'd love to hear it.
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